I have realized tonight that I want to have someone that not only can I share my dreams with, but more than that, I want someone who isn’t afraid to let me have my dreams come true.
Fear is so real for some people. I find it hard to believe that we try to control our fears. It just seems odd to me that we miss out on so much because of something we are afraid of, rational or not.
When we are afraid we try to stop whatever it is from happening that causes our fears to increase, or become active. We let our fears stop us from becoming what we want, or could be, fear aside.
For a lot of us this translates into not allowing those around to succeed. We want them to succeed…who wouldn’t? But, our fear gets the better of us, and we hold them back. We withdraw support. We change our minds. We ridicule. We make fake arguments to stop them from walking out the door. You name it, we do it.
I found this true in the churches I was apart of.
Church was not a safe place to grow and learn because of fear.
“What would Jesus do?” Who cares, cause we are too scared to find out!
It became unsafe to share growth in your life because people were afraid of the changes it would bring. “If he figures that out then sure it will be good for him, but it will be bad for us, because he wont be the same anymore.”
Things will change.
We are so afraid of change.
We are so afraid of everything.
No wonder the most often quoted command from God and those influenced by him was
FEAR NOT
Fear, more than Satan, has his grip on church.
The few real friends I have had and the community I have experienced with them was the only place I could express my growth, my changes, my maturity, without their fear.
Their bravery made it easier for me to face my fears.
I have never seen that in a church.
I’m afraid I never will.
