Adultery 2.0

If you think for one moment that my offense against you exceeds my offense to Christ Himself, you’ve highly deceived yourself. That being said, if Christ can and will forgive even the vilest of sinners, what makes you better than Him. Why do you persist in taking His position on His throne and casting such judgment on me? Do you not think He is quite capable of taking care of that Himself? Where’s your humility in it all. Have you thanked God that He spared you of a similar path because it could have been you just as easily. Christ said if a man even thinks it in his heart, he’s guilty of it.

The offense referenced is adultery. This married man slept with another man’s wife for over a year and a half. Evidently the man who was violated in this incident expressed his anger, hurt, and frustration over what had happened to him. In response, the adulterer basically said to him that he was being unforgiving, judgmental, bitter, and not Christ-like. He also said that he lacked humility.

Aside from the blatant unrepentant, arrogance of this reply, could it be true what he is saying?

Should the person who’s wife cheated on him be thankful that God spared him from sneaking around with another man’s wife like this man did?

Could it just as easily been that way like he says?

(Don’t worry we’re going to get to the out-of-context remarks about Jesus’ teachings on adultery soon enough)

The answer I give is no. No, no, no. I’m not sure if I am going to have enough time in this post to fully develop my thoughts on this, so I’ll make my reasoning quick and to the point in an attempt to explain my answer.

Christianity (for the most part) teaches that people are born into this world sinners. Sinning doesn’t make us sinners, we sin because we are sinners. Just like someone is born male or female and that makes them a boy or girl we are born with a sin nature and thus we are sinners.

Some circles define this sin nature as being totally depraved. Sin is not just in us, it has affected every aspect of our being. Our mind, heart, will, flesh, etc, has been touched with sin. While we aren’t as bad as we could be, we all have the potential for this.

So, basically, according to this thinking everyone on the planet doesn’t stand a chance as far as their choices go. See, one always acts out of his nature. Pigs roll in the mud, etc. So, if our nature is sin, then we will sin. It’s a lose lose situation.

Thus this man says “you should thank God that he spared you cause it could have been you just as easily.” In other words what he is saying is because of your sin nature, your depravity, you could have been sleeping with my wife instead of me sleeping with yours.

Read that sentence again.

Seriously.

Now does anyone agree with that type of thinking?

No.

I sure don’t.

There is no way I would have slept with his wife for a year and a half. Why? I am not him. I don’t think like him, act like him, don’t have his moral upbringing, have not had his experiences. I don’t have his insecurities, short comings, successes, etc. I am not him. He is not me.

Now, just because he believes in depravity means he believes I would do what he did (unless God spared me from doing so, which begs the question of why didn’t God spare him [again the arrogance]…and if God could spare him and didn’t then who is really at fault? God? or him? Which leads me to ask do Christians really believe in depravity as they think they do because this guy just blamed God for not sparing him from sleeping with another man’s wife! Wow.

I believe I am a human, and that I have a choice in everything I do. My son came to me the other day about something someone “made me do”. I told him…come on, you all know what I told him…”Son, nobody can make you do anything. You choose to do, let, etc”… Right? Just cause someone hits me doesn’t me I can hit them back and if I do they didn’t “make me”. Just cause someone’s hot wife hits on me or tells me her problems doesn’t me I get to take them in my van down Industrial Park and screw them in the dark of night and say “my sin nature made me do it.”

When someone blames their sin nature are they really owning up to the problem?

Say “No”.

They are passing the blame. Christians are pros at this. It is their religion after all.

So what was Jesus really talking about when he said “if a man looks upon a woman with lust in his mind, then he has committed adultery already?” Well, I guess single guys are safe on this one, right? They can look and lust all day long. Glad I’m divorced. (I’m being silly, to make a point).

Jesus was not saying this as a definite, this is law, this is truth, and thusly make some pronouncement of what adultery really means, people. Believe it or not Jesus spoke in the same manner as you and I do (and not in King James English either). In other words he was saying something obviously not intended to be taken as law in order to make a point.

If you read the verses in context you’ll soon discover he was teaching on judging others and not dealing with your own sin. (You can go read it yourself. I don’t have to provide the verses and the points anymore. I’m not a preacher!)

Oh, wait a minute, that’s exactly what is going on here isn’t it. Most Christians I know hide their sin behind sin so that they never have to face the real issue. The real issue isn’t about sin, it’s about you.

You chose.

You decided.

You worked the mojo.

You went where you shouldn’t have.

You said what you shouldn’t have said.

You ignored her asking you not to go there.

You pressed forward when she said no.

You broke her down. She gave in.

Why? Cause you’re a sinner? No, cause you’re sinner. If you don’t see the difference, please see me afterward.

So, this guy attempts to cover his sin by 1) blaming God, 2) blaming his sin nature, and 3) blaming the other person and making them just as low or lower than he is.

I don’t have to worry about thanking God for sparing me from adultery.

I don’t have to worry about my “sin nature”.

Why?

Cause I am not an adulterer.

He is.